Motherhood: Reality versus Hollywood

Posted on May 26th, 2017

Moms gather around. Before having a baby, did you watch movies that portrayed motherhood, that showed how the perfect mom looks and behaves, and what childbirth would be like? Mommy blogger Nikita Camacho sets the record straight about Hollywood’s idea of being mom and the reality.

Motherhood -Hollywood vs Reality

Well, wrap my head in cellophane and call me a sucker, because I fell for some bad Hollywood motherhood stereotypes over the years. I never disputed what I saw in movies until years later. After actually reading up about childbirth and then becoming a mom, I discovered how unrealistic movies often are about motherhood. Granted, some are slowly getting it right, but not all of them just yet.

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Hollywood:

Once you give birth, your hair still looks good while you’re wheeled into your (private, I might add) room cradling your baby.

Reality:

I had no idea that I wouldn’t be straight back in the maternity ward after my C-section. I was clueless that I would be put in a recovery ward to check my vitals first. Plus, my husband and my baby weren’t with me.

Hollywood:

Baby bump be gone after delivery and slip back into your jeans when you leave the hospital.

Reality:

I seriously believed this one for a long time. I thought you’d still carry the weight that was gained during pregnancy, but not the bump! Instead of jeans, I left the hospital in maternity leggings and my own type of “nappy”.

Hollywood:

Movies make us believe that when a baby cries, it’s a little wail that is quickly soothed with a dummy or a feed followed by a soft pat on the back for a little burp.

Reality:

Babies have strong lungs that will have you wondering how can a human so small make so much noise. I’d try almost everything I could to stop my baby crying, only to be told that I had to burp her which I could not get right.

Hollywood:

It doesn’t matter if you’re a new mom or a mom of two under two, your house is always neat and tidy.

Reality:

Whether it’s the clothing hamper full of dirty clothes or the piling dishes, my house is a far cry of what it used to be before a baby. Add a little walker in the mix, and something is always being unpacked

Hollywood:

Families somehow always manage to sit down and have a full breakfast together every morning. Like what is that sorcery?

Reality:

If you’re able to do this, I salute you. For me, this only happens on a weekend. I lie, maybe once a month if we’re lucky.

So the moral of the story is that Hollywood often does motherhood and babies wrong. It can set up unrealistic views and expectations. For that reason, don’t fret too much about the small stuff and compare yourself to others, because you are already doing an awesome job as a mom.

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About Xanet Scheepers

Xanet is an award-winning journalist and Living and Loving’s digital editor. She has won numerous awards for her health and wellness articles and was a finalist for the Discovery Journalist of the Year in 2009 and again in 2011 for the Discovery Best Health Consumer Reporting and Feature Writing category. She is responsible for our online presence across social media channels and makes sure our moms have fresh and interesting articles to read every day.