The Royals are known for keeping their private affairs private, never letting slip that anything is wrong even if the whole world seems to be crashing down around them.
Britain’s Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle has broken free from these ‘chains’, from the tradition of keeping her private life private and pretending that everything is perfect. In a very intimate opinion piece for The New York Times this morning she opened up about the miscarriage she suffered in July this year.
“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.
After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.
I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second,” she starts off with her column.
In the article she tells how she lay in a hospital bed hours later clutching Harry’s hand. “I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal,” she writes.
She continues to write that despite the commonality of this pain, the conversation around miscarriage remains taboo and riddled with unwanted shame.
And we couldn’t agree with her more. So many women grief in silence, on their own. We should be there for each other during these hard times.
Always ask your friends if they’re OKAY even if you know they’ll say that they are.
Maybe just that one day when you ask, she’ll be ready to pour her heart out to you.
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