Becoming parents is one of the most exciting events in a couple’s life. Every woman wants to shout the good news from the roof tops – or Twitter and Facebook these days. But, before you get too carried away, remember that there’s a time and a place for everything.
Here are some guidelines on how to do it right
1. Dad comes first
Since your partner played an integral role in conceiving the baby, you should share the happy news with him first. If the pregnancy has come as a bit of a surprise, decide what would be the best way to let him know. Although you can break the news in any way you choose, there are three rules that should be followed: you can’t Tweet the news to your partner, nor tag him in a Facebook post or send him an SMS or BBM. A phone call won’t be sufficient either. You’ll need to tell him in person in a private setting rather than at a restaurant or at the office.
2. Tell your family next
It’s important that you tell your and your hubby’s family about the pregnancy before making an announcement to anyone else or on any social networking site. You can decide when you’d like to tell them, whether it’s right away or only at the end of your first trimester.
3. Be gentle with friends and family struggling with infertility
Just because you’re pregnant, doesn’t mean you have to avoid friends who are struggling to fall pregnant, or not tell them about your pregnancy. In fact, it’s quite important to share your news with them as soon you’ve told your partner and family. Tell your friend in person in a private setting, and be thoughtful when you break the news. Try not to complain about pregnancy symptoms and fears, and remember to tell her that you care about her and that you know your pregnancy may be hard for her to deal with. If she needs to process the news, give her some time to do so.
4. Snail mail is not the way to go
Adorable bouncy boys and girls on beautiful glitter cards may seem like a good way to tell friends and family about the little one on the way, but it’s a bit too impersonal. This sort of news is best given in person. You can still buy a beautiful card or t-shirt with a message announcing your pregnancy, but if possible, try to give these gifts in person. If your family lives far away and snail mail is your only option, follow up your gift with a phone call.
5. Put Twitter and Facebook on hold
Before making the news public on social network sites, go through your friend list and make sure that all family members and very close friends have already been told in person. Once you’ve ticked that off your list, you can decide how you’d like to announce the news on your social network sites.
6. Tell your boss before your colleagues
However tempting it may be to tell your colleagues about your pregnancy, hold back until you’ve shared the news with your boss. Preparation is key when you plan to break the news to the man/woman in charge. It may be wise to research your company’s policies on maternity leave and leave for doctor’s appointments before making an appointment with your boss. He/she may have questions about how much maternity leave you plan to take and if you think your pregnancy will affect your work performance at all. So be prepared.
7. Spill the beans when you’re ready
A common belief is to wait until after the first trimester before telling friends and family about your pregnancy, but the choice is really up to you, and when you feel ready and comfortable to share the happy news. But don’t wait too late or it may be uncomfortable if you’re showing and you haven’t told anyone yet.
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