Expecting multiples? Here’s how to cope

Posted on February 8th, 2018

Mom to twins Martine Hendricks gives advice to other moms on what to expect when pregnant with multiples.

Expecting multiples? How to cope

Congratulations! You are going to be a parent! And whether this is the first time or the next in line, it’s still pretty special. So, are you expecting a set of twins, a squad of triplets or a bucket-full of quads? Whatever the number, all we know is that this is going to be the best adventure of your life, but it’s important to take care of yourself.

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Mental health matters

The mind should never be neglected. It’s important to be conscious of what is taking place inside your womb and be in tune with the growth patterns. Trust your instincts, as this will guide you in a direction that works for you, because all pregnancies are different.

Plan to relax

It’s a fact that one will never ever truly be prepared for multiples, although you can definitely put a plan into place – just to help you along.

At every doctor’s appointment, ask questions but not too many to overwhelm you. Keep it basic. Sometimes we assume that knowing it all will help, but actually this could be more of an anxiety. Once you are comfortable with the growth of the babies and you’re following doctor’s orders (please put your feet up if you’re asked to do so) then it’s a good idea to start ticking off the lists.

Questions to ask yourself

  • Am I doing the most to make sure that I am calm?
  • Do the birth options offered to me by my specialist put me at ease?
  • Have I been keeping the positive influences close?
  • Am I comfortable?

These questions are both vital for you and your partner because now that you are growing more than one baby, you’ll need all the tranquility you can get. Try your best to not sweat the small stuff. Yes, carrying more than one baby could be high-risk, but there is no value in getting worked up or stressed out. Always focus on you. If you are good mentally and physically, then you have already won half the pregnancy battle.

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Again, keep reminding yourself that this is a super special time so continue to embrace every single moment. There is no greater appreciation at this time than having people behind you who will be there through your pregnancy journey, and still be there for the rest of the adventure. Hold them dear because a good support network will make this process easier. Basically you’re building your multiple help squad.

This squad will be there to listen to you as you express all your feelings, hold your hand, feed you and make you feel like you’re the queen of all things baby.  But, they will also help you to be brave and still do the things you love with no fear of hurting the precious cargo. Don’t ever entertain the negativity.

This is one journey you will never forget!

Love yourself.

Embrace the moments.

Be happy.

Don’t forget to keep your eye out for part 2 of our ‘Multiple Survival Guide’.