Here's our expert guide on how to have the best sex you possibly can during pregnancy. By Lynne Gidish
Just because you’re pregnant, it doesn’t mean that sex should be on hold. In fact, pregnancy sex can possibly be the best sex you’ve ever had, especially if you use this guide to the best sex positions during pregnancy.
The first trimester
Sex during the first trimester is likely to go one of two ways, says cognitive, behavioural and psychosexual therapist Catriona Boffard. “You may experience extreme bouts of morning sickness, your hormones may be all over the show, your breasts may be tender, or you may simply be worried that you could harm your baby – all of which could result in you not feeling very sexy, or not wanting to have sex at all.
Alternatively, you may not notice any difference and since you’re not really showing that much yet, things will be pretty similar to how they were before. Either way, if you’re attending your appointments and your doctor has said that everything is going well, there’s no reason you shouldn’t have sex.”
Don’t place too much pressure on yourselves to have the ‘same sort of sex’ that you did before. Remember that intimacy starts outside the bedroom and that you don’t always have to have sex to be intimate. If hormones and morning sickness are playing havoc with your libido, try to be intimate when you feel well as this time can really go a long way to comfort you and strengthen your bond with your partner. Because you don’t have a baby bump yet any position should be comfortable, but why not focus on the more intimate ones? Try the coital alignment technique (missionary with a pillow placed under your buttocks) or having him sit in a chair with you straddling him.
The second trimester
“The second trimester is one of the best times to have sex since your hormones are raging, your belly isn’t too big, and the blood flow to your genitals is increased,” says psychologist and sex therapist Dr Marelize Swart. “Those early pregnancy side effects such as nausea and vomiting have now subsided and, although your bump may be showing, it’s usually not large enough to be in the way during sex.
As for positions, most of them are considered safe – just experiment to find which positions best accommodate your growing belly and use pillows for added comfort. “Rather than lying on your back,” Dr Swart suggests, “it may be more comfortable for you to be on top, or lie sideways next to your partner, facing each other. You may also like to try spooning with both of you on your sides and your spouse entering or touching you from behind. Alternatively try crouching on your hands and knees as he enters from behind.”
The third trimester
You may have to be a little more creative now, but you may also be in for the best sex of your life, says sexologist Dr Elna Rudolph. “The blood flow to your genitals is much stronger than usual, so you may feel far more aroused than usual. Your orgasms may also be far more intense.
However, you may also find that you take longer to orgasm and that you experience some dryness. All of this is normal. If you are dry, use a water- or silicone-based lubricant without any added colourants or flavourants as they can cause yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis. It may also not be safe or comfortable to lie flat on your back as your heavy uterus can compress the major artery from your heart. “Ideal sex positions during pregnancy include you on top, spooning, rear-entry and oral sex. Due to the increased blood flow, this may be the best oral sex you’ll ever have, so cash in on it!”
Lynne is a freelance journalist and content writer who has worked in the
magazine industry for many years. A regular contributor to Living & Loving,
her main passions are people and health. She holds the Pfizer Mental Health
Journalism award for 2012/2013 and specializes in lifestyle and wellness
topics for both the print and digital worlds.