Did you always want to be a mom?
I didn’t think about babies too much until after I got married, but there was no pressure to start a family immediately. I’m happy and incredibly thankful to be living my dream – I’m working on one of the most popular soapies in the country, I married my best friend and I’m blessed with the best gift ever, my baby Nema. Motherhood is so real and I love every moment of it.
Who is your biggest parenting influence?
My mom. I learned so much from her and I continue to learn from her every day. She is just the best. She lives in Bloemfontein, but she visits often to check up on me and her granddaughter.
What is your favourite thing about motherhood?
Seeing my baby wake up every morning with a smile on her face. Just seeing her smile at me, I forget everything around me and just focus on her. She warms my heart with her smile. I also enjoy breastfeeding – it’s a great bonding experience. I love watching her enjoy feeding from me.
How did you choose her name?
We were out for dinner one night and I suggested to my husband we combine the two first letters from our names – Ne from Nelson and Ma from Mapaseka, and we got Nema. I did some research and found that Nema means blessing in Hebrew. We ended up with a beautiful name with a great meaning.
Where do you like to go as a family?
We don’t have a favourite spot just yet, but I can’t wait to take her to the beach. I can just picture her in a cute swimsuit.
What is her favourite toy?
She is at that stage of eating everything she grabs, so teething toys are her favourite.
What have you given up since becoming a mom?
I have given up travelling and going out at the last minute with friends. Nema comes first now, and I prefer staying home bonding with her. I miss travelling, but we will travel again when she gets bit older.
Embarrassing moment with your baby?
I was so tired of being in the house, so we decided to go out with her when she was three months old. She started crying at the restaurant and people stared at us. I was embarrassed that people thought that I couldn’t handle or keep my baby quiet, but I have gotten over it.
What does your husband do better than you?
He cooks better than me!
What has Nema taught you so far?
She has taught me patience. I am more patient now – I think all parents have to be.
What is the biggest parenting mistake you have made so far?
I’m buying too many clothes and shoes for her. She grows every day, and often can’t fit what I’ve bought, so it’s a waste of money.
What advice can you give to other new moms?
You can do it – be patient with yourself. Don’t worry too much about getting your pre-pregnancy body back, rather focus on bonding with your new baby and include your husband in this parenting journey.