As much as your new baby can bring so much joy to you and your partner, it also can be stressful, with the potential to create strain in a relationship. We offer tips on how to keep the romance alive in your relationship after a baby. By Sharon Mahlase
The arrival of your bundle of joy comes with so many changes, with the focus shifting to your baby and the relationship between you and your partner often taking a backseat.
Here are some things that might place strain on your relationship after a baby:
- Household and baby chores
In addition to necessary household chores, your baby demands special attention too. It’s important that as a couple you share duties around the house and the responsibility of looking after your baby, so that the mother does not feel frustrated and alone and the dad doesn’t feel neglected.
- Lack of sex
With the attention constantly on your baby, time to have sex can become non-existent. This reduces intimacy and passion in your relationship.
- Parenting arguments
It’s normal to have conflicting views on what is best for your baby, but don’t let snapping at each other and arguing turn into a routine, as this could weaken the bond you both share and put a strain on the relationship.
- Neglecting each other
It is important to remember that in putting your baby’s needs first, you still shouldn’t overlook caring for your partner.
Tips on how to keep the romance alive in your relationship after a baby:
- Prioritise date night
Dating each other is what made you fall in love in the first place. Even if you don’t leave the house, make time to spend together as a couple.
Do not lose the fun and playful part of your relationship.
- Stop competing
You are on the same team, so support, encourage and compliment one other instead of complaining and nagging about who isn’t doing what.
- Make love to stay in love
This is about more than just having sex. Intimacy is important in a relationship, and has a lot of benefits over and above creating a stronger connection between the two of you.
Xanet is an award-winning journalist and Living and Loving’s digital editor. She has won numerous awards for her health and wellness articles and was a finalist for the Discovery Journalist of the Year in 2009 and again in 2011 for the Discovery Best Health Consumer Reporting and Feature Writing category. She is responsible for our online presence across social media channels and makes sure our moms have fresh and interesting articles to read every day. Learn more about Xanet Scheepers.