5 ways to teach your child to give back this festive season

Teaching your child to give back helps them to develop compassion and gratitude.


The festive season is an exciting time for many lucky children. It’s filled with decorations, concerts, parties, and of course, the presents they receive from others. While all this adds up to a magical time, it’s also an excellent opportunity to teach them the gift of giving – especially to those who have less than them. Teaching your child to give back helps them to develop compassion and gratitude. With this in mind, we asked parents how they encourage generosity in their children during the festive season.

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Here are 5 ideas:

Have them donate gifts they receive.

Mom of two, Lynn Rushton, has a family tradition where her boys select a Christmas gift they have received to give to a child who would appreciate it more, such as the orphans in the children’s home Lynn works with. The key difference is that her kids are encouraged to give brand new gifts, as opposed to donating something used. “As well as teaching them generosity of spirit, it also reduces their excess of toys. In this way they can better appreciate the things they do have,” says Lynn.

Natasha Stone does something similar. Every second year, she skips birthday presents for her sons. encouraging friends and family to donate the gifts to underprivileged kids at the Ebenezer Nursery School in Orange Farm instead.

Spot the everyday opportunities.

Giving back doesn’t only need to be limited to this time of year. Teach your children to think of others in ordinary times too. If you’re grocery shopping with your kids, you could buy extra toiletries or non-perishable items that you could then donate. Brands often hold their own charity drives within supermarkets, too, such as the Clover Krush project. If you choose to buy Krush products while you shop at your local supermarket, you’ll be playing your part in contributing toward 20 000 pairs of school shoes going to children in need in 2020.

Teach them that it’s not about spending.

Giving a Christmas gift to someone else doesn’t always need to be a huge expense – a handmade gift can be far more meaningful to loved ones than buying something off the shelf. Cape Town mom Belinda Mountain tries to teach her son and daughter this each Christmas, encouraging them to make gifts for family themselves. “I want to teach my kids the joy in giving gifts, not only receiving them, which doesn’t have to mean mass consumerism and always hitting the shops,” she says. “So, they’ll craft things like bookmarks, or bake a jar of cookies – it’s about the thought that went into the gift, not what you spent.”

Get them involved with charities.

Working with charities or community initiatives isn’t just for adults – there are plenty of opportunities for kids to get involved too. The popular Santa’s Shoebox initiative collects gifts in decorated shoeboxes to give to underprivileged kids around South Africa. Your children can help you shop for the items, and then pack and decorate the box themselves with wrapping paper, paint and stickers.

It’s not just about material goods.

Giving a gift doesn’t necessarily need to involve money or material things – quality time can be an incredible gift to people who are lonely over the festive season. For example, if your children are visiting their grandparents in an old age home over Christmas or Hanukkah, you could encourage them to spend time with others in the home who may not have family in their lives. Nicola Morgan-Fizelle’s son sings in their school choir, and each Christmas they visit a local old age home where they sing carols to the elderly. “Most of them are in tears when they listen to the boys sing,” she says.

The festive season is a wonderfully exciting time for your children – but it’s also a great opportunity to teach them to think beyond themselves and their own needs. Instilling compassion in your kids when they are young will go a long way to raising kind, thoughtful adults, in a world that so desperately needs them.

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