Becoming a mom is so much more than just having a baby. It is the start of a love you never imagine existed. But, having been a mother for a good four and a half years (the half is important), I have come to realise that there are many things from my life before kids that I have had to kiss goodbye.
Here are the top 10 things I miss the most:
1. Long lunches that extend to long nights out
There are no more Saturday lunches with girlfriends that result in a quick outfit change to go dancing all night.
2. The long lazy lie-in
I long for a Sunday morning in bed with nothing to do but roll over and catch up on sleep, or read a few pages of my book or the newspaper.
3. Hot tea
You never really appreciate a cup of hot tea until you have kids. In fact, I am sure they invented microwaves simply so moms could warm their cold cups of tea four or five times before drinking it.
4. Bathing alone
I am yet to have a relaxing bath without one or two of my children jumping in too. And with them comes a whole bunch of bath toys. And pee. I long for a pee-free bath.
5. Making it through the 8pm movie
TV action past 9pm results in me fast asleep in a super-uncomfortable position where I wake up annoyed that I have sacrificed actual sleeping time in bed.
6. Sleeping through the night
Even if the kids manage to sleep through the night without needing to wee, having a scary dream or losing their favourite toy, I still wake up. It seems my internal clock is set to baby mode for the rest of my life.
7. Skipping supper
Weekends usually involved a late-afternoon meal, which meant supper that night was never a big deal before I had kids. Coming home from a late lunch on a Sunday and still needing to make a well-balanced dinner is a tough one.
8. Going to the beach to relax with only a book, bottle of water and sunscreen
Now beach time requires packing a bag for a small vacation and being covered head to toe in sand.
9. Last-minute plans
These no longer exist. Unless you live with a 24-hour babysitter, you are required to plan well in advance to make everyone happy.
10. Eating your own meal
I can’t remember when I actually had a plate to myself. Whenever I sit down to eat anything, from toast to a roast dinner, both my kids attack my plate like they have never been fed before.
Pippa is a Registered Professional Nurse and trained as a Registered Midwife at Chris Hani Baragwanth Hospital. She has extensive experience in all things baby related with a special interest in preparing couples for the exciting journey of parenthood as well as supporting them in the weeks that follow the birth. She and her husband Richard are the proud parents of Becca age 6 and Tom age 4. Pippa has a comprehensive private clinic service that includes Childbirth Education classes, a Well Baby Clinic including Immunization as well as Post Natal and Lactation support. With over 5 years of running a private clinic facility and raising 2 children Pippa comes with a wealth of knowledge and first-hand experience of parenthood.