Celeb mom Chrissy Teigen recently spoke about the unrealistic expectations of post-pregnancy weight loss on The Today Show, where she said that the average woman can’t be expected to lose the “baby weight” at the same speed as a celebrity mom. “Anyone in the public eye, we have all the help we could ever need to be able to shed anything. So I think people get this jaded sensation that everybody’s losing it so quickly, but we just happen to be out there. We have nutritionists, we have dieticians, we have trainers, we have our own schedules, and we have nannies. We have people who make it possible for us to get back into shape. But nobody should feel like that’s normal, or like that’s realistic,” she said on the show.
Here one mommy shares her experience of the high expectations society has about getting your pre-pregnancy body back soon after birth.
I was invited to a baby clothing launch with fellow mommies and pregnant women. At the event, the conversation soon turned upon weight during pregnancy and how your body changes afterwards. As I listened intently, while scoffing a cupcake, I thought about the reality of true mom bods. I thought about how women in society are often fixated on celebrity magazines showing how a famous mom dropped all her baby weight in six weeks after giving birth. Not to mention the MILF $ music video by Fergie that I had watched and in which I envied the celeb moms’ bodies.
I started thinking about my own experience. Soon after having my baby, I easily fell prey to unrealistic expectations.
As a first-time mommy I was hard on myself, and I shouldn’t have been. I cried about my new body, I cried in the shower as I washed my soft, mushy belly, I cried that I didn’t fit in my pre-pregnancy jeans, I cried as I wrapped my swollen belly in a waist wrapper. It was ridiculous how much I cried. My behaviour was absurd. I was jumping on the scale almost every morning to see if my weight shifted.
After all my moaning and whining, someone eventually pointed it out that my body had changed over nine months to create my beautiful baby. The very thought of bouncing back was unrealistic. I realised that I needed to be kind to myself. What message I am sending to other pregnant moms about their new bodies and to my own daughter? No one should feel ashamed.
Sure my body doesn’t look the same as it did before. Does it bother me now? No. I eat that chocolate I’m craving or drink what I want. I gave my stomach a break from the tight waist wrapper. As for the scale that I was jumping on so religiously, it’s now collecting dust under my bed.
Back to the event and the conversation on mom bods, one mommy discussed how easy it was for celeb moms to bounce back as they have nannies looking after their babies and doing night feeds.
We all laughed at the absurdity of the expectations and continued enjoying the afternoon without any guilt over our new mom bods.
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