Parenting twins: Part 2
08:02 (GMT+2), Wed, 05 September 2012
We all sleep together
The great battle most families face are to sleep or not to sleep. Bubbling bundles of joy can turn your nights into bundles of horror if sleeping patterns are not established at the earliest stage in your twins’ lives. At the tender age of between 1 & 2 months, infants sleep around the clock which makes it difficult to obtain sleep patterns according to the National Sleep Foundation of America. The sleep foundation also advises to put babies to bed when they are sleepy and not asleep as this teaches them to fall asleep by themselves.
A hungry baby is upset, a tired baby is angry now insert that same scenario with twins, not a pretty sight at all. It is imperative to stick to the routine which suits you and your twins and be in tune with their likes and dislikes by listening to their crying, screeching or moaning signalling hunger or discomfort.
A good night’s rest is closer to reality than you may think or imagine; these are your lifelines:
• Expose your little ones to light during the day
• Encourage daytime play and interaction
• Scheduled feeds prevents you from overfeeding thus a more active baby by day
Relax and enjoy the differences in the similarity of twins
In the beginning stages, parents experience anxious dispositions and exhaustion, but with heaps of affection and your personal schedule, you revel in the fun and rewarding development of your multiples. Adjusting the routine to suit your growing pairs will be a breeze as you already have the basics in place and as their sleep, play and eating patterns evolve, so do you.
One thing not to be taken for granted is the fact that even though these babies are twins, they have their own personalities and characteristics thus their needs have to be addressed individually. Make a concerted effort to bring this notion across to family and friends so that they understand the importance of allowing’ the twins’ to express their differences by embracing their similarities.
Acknowledge that your twins have different personalities as this will have an effect on how they approach decisions.
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- Let them choose what they want to wear when going to day-care or playschool, not only will it keep twins independent but educators and peers will appreciate knowing the difference.
- At school level, it is best to keep twins in the same class for the early phases as these two little people need the comfort of attachment for this stepping stone. According to twins magazine.com and about.com/multiples, twins thrive occupying the same classroom, with that said they tend to make friends separately as they realise according to their personalities, who to form relationships with.
- It is all about listening. Listening to what makes your twins tick, individually. Be happy to get them involved in activities whether their interests are similar or varied as they have the chance to share about their different experiences with each other.
- Disciplining twins can be quite a challenge as pairs tend to be rather manipulative when it comes to owning up. Both parents need to be consistent in their forms of discipline and fair as blaming one party (most times) due to previous behaviour can lead to bad vibes between the children.