Don'ts for dads during pregnancy

10:34 (GMT+2), Thu, 30 August 2012

Don’t take your wife’s/partner’s mood swings personally; biologically, it’s what happens and is out of her control. Most often, a pregnant woman really dislikes the way she behaves at times, and you need to forgive her and look past the moments of irrational outrage, blame and despair. Take the punches and be the man you are supposed to be. Fatherhood is not for sissies!
Don’t give her backhanded compliments, such as: “Out of all the women in the world, I chose you.” This is often misinterpreted to mean that she is not living up to your expectations. Rather, thank and acknowledge your wife/partner for what she does and never compare her to another woman, be it her sister or your mother – it’s never a good idea!
Don’t put added pressure on your partner. Remember that she’s feeling vulnerable and is very much aware that her body is changing, without you reminding her by saying: “Don’t you think you’re putting on too much weight?”
Try not to be ‘too smart’ or a Mr Wise Guy. If you normally make jokes and tease your wife/partner about things, now is the time to stop. It may be how you are used to showing your affection for her, but during pregnancy it’s not likely not to come across that way, especially if you’re in the company of others.

By Hayley Alexander

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